Wir müssen die Liebe neu erfinden

Women and men seek fulfillment in love and are then defenseless against a third actor: the patriarchy. The French feminist sheds light on a topic that has occupied feminists for decades and is once again coming to the forefront: heterosexual love. In our romantic ideals of couple relationships, there is always a form of female subordination encoded, suggesting that women must choose between personal and romantic fulfillment. This societal conditioning is something we all suffer from. The belief that men are entitled to everything, while women are expected to be selfless and devoted, undermines their self-confidence and leads to a power imbalance that can culminate in physical and psychological violence. As for sexuality, the realms of desire continue to be permeated by male fantasies. Mona Chollet vividly and precisely reveals that our romantic notions are always built on the subordination of women – and what this means for heterosexual relationships.