Sexfrei

Everything is possible, nothing is mandatory! The experienced sex therapist breaks the taboo of "lack of desire" for the first time: a compassionate and practical plea for all those suffering from sexual frustration. Those who have not felt like having sex for a long time often hide it. After all, sexually abstinent individuals are seen as strange. Yet, lack of desire is completely normal. There is a tacit agreement in our society that sex is a fundamental part of monogamous partnerships. As a result, those who have not felt like having sex for a while often keep it a secret, making sexual abstinence a taboo. But what should one do when desire in a partnership has faded? Have we become too familiar? Has something else become more important, like work or children? Is there a past trauma or a limiting illness? Often, this sexual abstinence is a significant burden for the relationship and for those affected. Sex therapist Anica Plassmann is increasingly meeting couples in her practice who are dissatisfied with their (absent) sex life. The reasons are diverse: physical, but often also psychological. They feel that something is wrong with them, that their lack of desire is not "normal." Especially women after pregnancy or during menopause often find themselves confronted with this issue. Through numerous case studies, the sex therapist vividly explains the reasons for sexual abstinence and shows ways out of the vicious cycle of frustration and humiliation. She advocates for a new culture of conversation about sexual needs and the destigmatization of sexual abstinence. And above all: she sharpens our awareness for independently shaping our sexual lives: everyone should be free to choose whether they want to or not. Let us respect the intimacy of each individual, as the author pleads. Everyone has the right to abstain from sex! A compassionate appeal for self-determined sexuality in times of uncertainty.