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Parents are the origin of life, and the relationship with them has a lasting effect on their children. In the author's systemic practice, the topic of "parents" affects almost every one of her clients. In no other topic are the needs for love, security and unconditional recognition so at odds with the striving for adult autonomy. Is there a "child" in each of us that demands to be loved unconditionally by their parents? Where are parents really guilty and where do adult "children" project enemy images or wishful thinking onto their father and mother due to injuries and unfulfilled desires? And why is it so difficult to come to terms with the past and shape the present in a self-determined way? This book examines the topic from different perspectives: - Part I provides information about the relationship between parents and children over the centuries. - Part II deals with the effects of overarching patterns according to which families organise themselves according to the findings of systemic psychotherapy. - Part III explains why the apple doesn't fall far from the tree to begin with. - Part IV describes how the life script acquired in childhood typically has an effect and why undesirable situations are repeated. - Part V outlines the therapeutic process by which the unconscious childhood life script can be decoded and replaced by a currently appropriate adult script. Afterword by Martin Miller, son of childhood researcher Alice Miller and author of the book: "The True Drama of the Gifted Child', The Tragedy of Alice Miller" "With this book, Christiane Sautter shows how you can ingeniously break out of your childish self-sacrificing shackles. With this book, she provides everyone with the basics for taking the first step towards independence and breaking away from their parents." Martin Miller.