I leave you

Those who leave a partner seem to have forfeited any right to understanding. Sandra Lüpkes has written the first book for those who have decided to separate: advice and help for everyone who now has to deal with accusations, doubts, guilt, and rejection.

"After I told my husband that I would be leaving him, we sought help from a counseling center. While he was provided with a whole stack of self-help books, I didn't even receive a single sheet of paper." When a relationship ends, the person leaving is often left alone with their feelings, as all attention is directed towards the one who has been left. It seems that with the words "I am leaving you," one loses any right to suffer, to receive sympathy, or support - after all, it was their choice. Yet, even the phase leading up to the final break demands everything from the one who is leaving: the courage to make a decision, the separation conversation, and planning one's future life - without the partner.