The small library of female lust
6.3.2023
Translation: machine translated
Pictures: Natalie Hemengül
For enlightenment, (self-)discovery, inspiration or simply to feed your curiosity - here are eight book recommendations that can accompany and support you on your individual journey to your sexual identity.
Curiosity - visiting other people's bedrooms
Do you talk to others about your most intimate thoughts? For the book "What we love - women talk about sex"*, 51 women aged 19 to 74 confided in author Lucy-Anne Holmes and talked to her about their sexual preferences, desires and secrets. These are the stories of open, courageous people from a wide range of backgrounds with different sexual orientations. These include trans women and people who identify as non-binary (which is why the author uses the gender star after the word woman). A colourful masterpiece that makes exciting reading and is visually rounded off by numerous illustrations by various artists.
Source: Natalie Hemengül
The book "Every Body - A Fascinating Journey Through Our World of Sexual Desire and Identity" by author Julia Rothman and filmmaker Shaina Feinberg takes a similar approach. Their work is a hodgepodge of stories, essays, comics, interviews and illustrations on the topic of sex, which also includes the male perspective.
Learning - the basis for good sex
He who practices, comes. That's what Dania Schiftan promises in the first volume of her guidebook series. In "Coming Soon", the sex therapist guides you through a 10-step programme designed to bring you to climax. True to the premise: Orgasm is a matter of practice. In around 200 pages, she encourages us women to explore our bodies better during solo sex and to use this knowledge in a targeted way to feel more during sex.
The titles "Love Your Sex" by Gianna Bacio and Julia Henchen's "Lustfaktor" are similar in terms of the basic idea, with the latter focussing more on masturbation.
Schiftan's second book "Keep It Coming" goes one step further and is aimed at anyone who wants to work on their sexuality as a couple. In it, the author explains how you can reshape deadlocked processes in long-term relationships, overcome sexual obstacles or find your way back into your sexuality after physical changes (such as after giving birth). In short: a companion piece for a togetherness in bed that is fun for both of you.
Source: Natalie Hemengül
"Kommt gut" by illustrator Jüne Plã is extremely practice-orientated and more like an instruction manual for the body. The artist uses her employees to illustrate the anatomy of our most sensitive areas and depicts techniques in a comprehensible way. For example, how to use your hand, how to turn it, how to touch, press and feel with it. From the vulva to the breasts to the penis, regardless of your gender or sexual orientation, it teaches you how to use which part of your body to create pleasurable moments for yourself or others. To put it more brutally: 1,001 sex tips and illustrations for more oohs and aahs.
Whether a woman has good sex or not depends on the context. The author of the book "Come as you like" is convinced of this. In it, sex educator Emily Nagoski explains the necessary (anatomical) foundations that enable us to feel pleasure in the first place and the influence of everyday life on our sex life - all based on the latest research findings. At around 430 pages, it is a detailed work that looks at topics such as self-doubt, orgasm difficulties, preferences and social pressure.
This book list was created in collaboration with sex therapist Dania Schiftan. She has been working as a sexologist and psychotherapist in her own practice in Zurich for 15 years. She also works as a psychologist at Parship. You can find out more about her and her job in the interview with her. You can find all the other articles in the series here:
Natalie Hemengül
Senior Editor
Natalie.Hemenguel@digitecgalaxus.chAs a massive Disney fan, I see the world through rose-tinted glasses. I worship series from the 90s and consider mermaids a religion. When I’m not dancing in glitter rain, I’m either hanging out at pyjama parties or sitting at my make-up table. P.S. I love you, bacon, garlic and onions.
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